September 18, 2017
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Need A Happiness Boost? Spend Your Money To Buy Time, Not More Stuff
by Allison Aubrey
Money can't buy happiness, right? Well, some researchers beg to differ. They say it depends on how you spend it.
A recent study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences suggests that when people spend money on time-saving services such as a house cleaner, lawn care or grocery delivery, it can make them feel a little happier. By comparison, money spent on material purchases — aka things — does not boost positive emotions the way we might expect.
Think of it as a way to buy back what has become for many Americans a scarce resource: free time.Find out more ...
Smarter, Healthier, Richer, Friendlier, and More Generous!
by Lynn Johnson, PhD
Suppose happiness made you smarter, healthier, friendlier and more generous? Suppose while money doesn’t make you happy, happy people tend to make more money? Suppose you could build happiness the same way you’d build any skill, whether learning a musical instrument or a new language? Suppose all it took were to cultivate some pleasant habits?
Would you be interested?
Of course you would. Each one of the things said here is completely true.
Download this report today, and by tomorrow you can start becoming smarter, healthier, richer, friendlier, and more generous.
Don’t let your lack of knowledge stand in the way of your happiness.
Donovan’s Happiness Runs in a Circular Motion
by David Murillo
from Positive Yoga
Where does happiness come from?
You have to steadfastly work your way up to it. You have to apply yourself to the improvement over a sufficient period of time before you will be able to access something like happiness for a sustainable period. Happiness is your natural state of being and you have systematically trained yourself to not feel that way. It’s not that you are going to create happiness inside yourself; it’s that you are going to train yourself to quit disallowing it. You are going to accept that it is your natural way of being. You are going to accept you are already set up to be happy. You are going to accept that God has arranged a lifetime of happiness for you and you are going to allow that. You don’t have to go out there and “make” happiness. You do however have to teach yourself to allow it. You have to cease searching for dissatisfaction. You have to quit looking for problems. You have to let go of your habit of complaining.
You are bathed in bliss. You are swimming in an ocean of delight. But this is an infinite ocean that contains all things…and you get what you look for. If you look for problems you will find them. If you look for reasons to despair you will find them. If you look for things to complain about, oh, will you ever find them. And the vast ocean of life will provide you with plenty of evidence to “prove” that they are real.
You just have to pull the plug on your old way of thinking and then plug-in a new way of being. You are not asked to modify your thinking. You’re not going to change things by tweaking one little thought here and changing one little thought there. You're asked to do a complete makeover; a rebuild from the ground up. If you want to supercharge your progress, you cannot go on as you were. Those little things don’t change the average very much. They don’t alter the trajectory you are traveling. Their service is to prove change is possible but once you’ve decided it’s worth the effort you must make a commitment to pursue radical change.
It’s like any other endeavor of the human spirit, those who are committed, those who sustain a regular practice that excludes other possibilities, are those who reap the greatest rewards. You cannot continue to do the same things and expect different results.
Yoga for Positive Thought.org
by Fr. Richard Rohr
Despite many legitimate reasons for discouragement, Francis of Assisi (1181-1226) was known as a man of deep and abiding joy. . . Francis told his friars that it was their vocation as God’s minstrels “to move people’s hearts and lift them up to spiritual joy.”  They needed no other justification for their life or ministry.
One winter day when he and Brother Leo were walking along the road to Assisi from Perugia, Francis called out to Leo in the bitter cold five times, each time telling him what perfect joy was not: “Brother Leo, even if a Friar Minor gives sight to the blind, heals the paralyzed, drives out devils, gives hearing back to the deaf, makes the lame walk, and restores speech to the dumb, and what is more brings back to life a man who has been dead four days, write that perfect joy is not in that.” And so he continued with different enumerations of success and even spiritual enjoyment. And when he had been talking this way for a distance of two miles, Brother Leo in great amazement asked him: “Father, I beg you in God’s name to tell me where perfect joy is then to be found?”
And Francis replied: “When we come to the Portiuncula, soaked by the rain and frozen by the cold, all soiled with mud and suffering from hunger, and we ring at the gate of our friary and the brother porter comes and says angrily: ‘Who are you?’ and we say: ‘We are two of your brothers.’ And he contradicts us, saying, ‘You are not telling the truth. Rather you are two rascals who go around deceiving people and stealing what they give to the poor. Go away!’ and he does not open for us, but makes us stand outside in the snow and rain, cold and hungry until night falls—then if we endure all of those insults and cruel rebuffs patiently, without being troubled and without complaining, and if we reflect humbly and lovingly that the porter really knows us. Oh, Brother Leo, write that perfect joy is to be found there!
“And if we continue to knock and the porter comes out in anger, and drives us away with curses and hard blows saying ‘Get away from here! Who do you think you are?’ and if we bear it patiently and take the insults with joy and love in our hearts. Oh, Brother Leo, write down that this is perfect joy! . . . And now hear the conclusion: Above all the graces and gifts of the Holy Spirit which Christ gives to his friends is that of conquering oneself and willingly enduring sufferings, insults, humiliations, and hardships for the love of Christ.” 
Now that is an alternative universe! Here we see a truly nonviolent and liberated man. Clearly this is a different kind of “I” that is speaking here, an “I” hidden with Christ in God (Colossians 3:3). Rediscovering this joyous and free True Self is the goal of all transformation and journeys toward holiness.
The Program in Pastoral Care and Counseling encourages the spiritual formation of our pastors believing a strong spiritual base is the greatest resource a church leader can possess. It helps us weather the many storms of ministry and deepens the incredible joys ministry provides. Following is a list of Spiritual Directors in our area. We encourage you to take advantage of this rich resource. This listing will appear in each edition of our bi-monthly webpage updates and new names and contact information will be provided as we learn of them and have permission to include them. If you are a director or know of a director that is not included here please let us know.
Debbie Baker - firstname.lastname@example.org
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Laurie Tucker - email@example.com
The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want
by Sonja Lyubomirsky
You see here a different kind of happiness book. The How of Happiness is a comprehensive guide to understanding the elements of happiness based on years of groundbreaking scientific research. It is also a practical, empowering, and easy-to-follow workbook, incorporating happiness strategies, exercises in new ways of thinking, and quizzes for understanding our individuality, all in an effort to help us realize our innate potential for joy and ways to sustain it in our lives. Drawing upon years of pioneering research with thousands of men and women, The How of Happiness is both a powerful contribution to the field of positive psychology and a gift to people who have sought to take their happiness into their own hands.
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